This guy I work with asked me to go climbing (over Facebook) and so I went, and he asked if I also wanted to have dinner, so I figured it would be rude to say no so I went. When we got to his place he profusely apologized for how messy his room was (in my head I was like uhhhh, I am not planning on going in there). He seemed to think that I was a machine where if he did nice things for me, sex would be given to him. In the end we talked about things, but why are intentions declared at the end?? And why aren’t people socialized to make their intentions known at the beginning?
When I was in the 3rd grade, I thought I was straight, because I live in a society where heterosexuality is assumed, outward characteristics are used as orientation indicators, and being queer is seen as a negative thing.
Instead I tend to hear all about the evil of feminism and the bad feminists: how “they” hate men; how “they” want to go against nature—and God; how “they” are all lesbians; how “they” are taking all the jobs and making the world hard for white men.
When I asked the same folks about the feminist books or magazines they read, when I ask them about the feminist talks they have heard, about that feminist activists they know, they respond by letting me know that everything they know about feminism has come into their lives thirdhand, that they really have not come close enough to feminist movement to know what really happens, what it’s really about. Mostly they think feminism is a bunch of angry women who want to be like men. They do not even think about feminism as being about rights—about women gaining equal rights. When I talk about feminism I know—up close and personal—they willingly listen, although when our conversations end, they are quick to tell me I am different, not like the “real” feminists who hate men, who are angry. I assure them I am as real and as radical of a feminist as one can be, and if they dare to come closer to feminism they will see it is not how they have imagined it."
- bell hooks, Feminism is for Everybody (via marinashutup)
I feel like most people want a partner for reasons like sex and companionship, but I am most excited to find someone who I can do outdoor activities with for the rest of my life, is that weird?
- Alexi Wasser (via sippinpurple)
are girls still pretending they don’t masturbate?
I dunno, is society still teaching girls that anything related to their genitals is dirty and impure?
I stayed in my car extra long before buying my beer because Survivor by Destiny’s Child was on the radio